How Samira Found a Powerful New Way to Love

TL;DR: The author recounts how “Samira’s” ordinary grocery trip became evidence of shifting beliefs about love and marriage, revealing her emerging worthiness and the Universe’s gentle guidance toward the partnership she desires.

For many transgender people, the path to partnership can feel like walking through a hall of distorted mirrors. Every reflection seems to exaggerate a flaw, and every imagined future is filtered through the harsh experiences lived over a lifetime. For “Samira”, a Palestinian transgender woman completing her psychiatric residency in New York, those mirrors have been especially unforgiving.

Cultural tensions, the complexities of transition, and the daily navigation of autism in a world that often misunderstands it, have shaped Samira’s unconsciously chosen narratives. She learned early to treat the opinions of others as more valid than her own. The world told her she was too different, intimidating, complicated and strange, not normal. And she believed all of it.

Despite this, Samira has always carried a longing for marriage. Something deep within her knows she is meant to be seen, cherished, and chosen. Yet this desire has long competed with powerful internal stories convincing her she is unworthy of such love. She fears men will not accept her gender history, that her Palestinian identity will be a barrier, that autism will complicate her ability to connect, and that the world is too hostile for someone like her to find true partnership.

Samira took on such beliefs after years of listening to voices that insisted she was inherently unlovable, as well as her own voice, which made up similar disempowering stories. Her own stories came from experiences Samira misinterpreted as punishment, or retribution, instead of evidence of her unfolding path.

A “chance” encounter gets things started

When Samira first began her Positively Focused practice, she approached it cautiously. The idea that life could respond to her differently than her fears suggested felt distant and almost foreign. Over time, however, she has begun to feel the quiet pull of her Broader Perspective. She has started to notice subtle shifts in how she interprets her world, sensing that something softer, something more supportive is trying to make its way into her awareness. Recently, that support revealed itself in a place she least expected—a grocery-store parking lot.

During our recent session, Samira mentioned her Sunday grocery run introducing it as “something [you, Perry are] going to like. She was right.

She described how she had enjoyed a peaceful drive that morning, taking in the beauty of the landscape and feeling unusually at ease. That ease matters. It placed her in a receptive, aligned state without her even realizing it. Before she knew it, Samira found herself lost. She knew the store was near, but she didn’t know where. At the corner stood a man. He smoked a cigarette. Samira asked him where the grocery was. He said it was right around the corner. She thanked him and drove into the grocery store parking lot.

The moment took a surprising turn when she parked her car. As she got out of her car, the same man appeared. Samira initially brushed off this second interaction as coincidence. She also felt the man’s reappearance “creepy”.

“I just wanted to ask,” the man said. “Are you single?”

Samira also felt the man’s reappearance “creepy”. What it really was, was so much more.

The Ordinary Moment That Carried Extraordinary Meaning

Her retelling carried a mixture of amusement, cringe, and mild disbelief. Sabrina dismissed the creepy encounter as a quirk of American boldness. Not anything extraordinary. She didn’t notice the vibrational significance this encounter presented. Little did she realize, Samira shared an experience totally contradicting her entire belief system around romantic possibility. She told the story as if it were trivial, not recognizing that life had placed a small but potent piece of evidence directly in her path.

When I invited her to slow down and examine the moment more closely, she began to notice details she had overlooked. She realized she had not been performing or masking any part of herself, something she complained about doing. Her autism was unfiltered. Her femininity was natural. Samira felt relaxed and open. She moved through the encounter as Samira, not trying to be something for another. And yet someone found her interesting enough to approach her — twice — and take a gentle emotional risk.

The encounter wasn’t coincidence. Nor was it an example of men being indiscriminately forward (even in New York). It was subtle evidence of alignment — an early manifestation emerging from a softened vibrational field born of her better-feeling stories. Samira’s Broader Perspective orchestrated this situation as confirmation of that. What she effortlessly manifested: A man seeing her in a way she rarely sees herself: as desirable, approachable, and worth getting to know. The encounter bypassed her practiced fears and resonated with the deeper truth she is beginning to allow.

That’s what I pointed out to Samira.

The Universe Speaks Softly Before It Speaks Loudly

As Samira reflected on the interaction, she recognized how effortlessly it unfolded. She wasn’t trying to make a good impression. Nor was she hiding her identity or compensating for imagined shortcomings. She wasn’t bracing for rejection or anticipating danger. The moment flowed naturally from the joy she already experienced on her drive. That joy softened her resistance. It made room for life to deliver something new—something that spoke directly to her heart’s desire.

Manifestations often begin this way. Before the larger dream arrives, the Universe offers small, unmistakable indicators that the old story is losing momentum. These early signs are invitations to embrace a new story.

Samira didn’t meet her future partner in that parking lot, but she met the leading edge of her new reality. She met a reflection showing her she has always been worthy of love, even when her beliefs said otherwise.

Delivering alignment in perfect timing

The real power of the moment, however, lies in how this encounter shifted her internal landscape. She no longer has only conceptual arguments about her worthiness. She now has lived experience, evidence, a moment that cannot be dismissed or rationalized away without effort.

Samira met a man who responded to her energy, her presence, and her femininity without hesitation. She saw that she doesn’t need to alter herself to receive interest. She only needs to continue allowing her alignment to guide her.

And as she integrates this experience, Samira steps into a new chapter of her romantic journey. The story she once told about her future is dissolving. Meanwhile something softer, truer, and more expansive grows within her. Her life is preparing her for the love she seeks, revealing it piece by piece in moments she would never have predicted.

This is how the Universe delivers the results of alignment — gently, unexpectedly, and with perfect timing.

Perhaps you’re ready for your version of what Samira got. If so, slots are available on my calendar.

Your Invincibility Is As Close As Your Attention

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Invincibility is yours. And it’s closer than you think.

That’s a trick statement because “thinking” is what keeps you from experiencing your invincibility.

“Thinking” is also the key to getting your invincibility back.

When we use the word “invincibility”, we’re being literal, not metaphorical…

Your attention creates your life experience. We’re being literal here too. A person not used to looking at life that way, or a person who believes only science has all the answers, might be confronted by this literally accurate statement.

But there is no evidence to the contrary.

Give all your attention to what you see and you create more life experience consistent with that. Put your attention in the moment of becoming, however, and you tap into your real leverage. Your seat of power, creation and invincibility.

Your own life overflows with evidence demonstrating that your attention on life creates your life experience. People ascribe these examples to random chance, luck, or coincidence only because they infrequently notice them: they only notice them when they’re particularly stand out-ish.

So it seems such events are few and far between.

But when a person deliberately taps into the moment of becoming they realize these kinds of events are not random. Instead, they are happening all the time. In fact, there is never a time when they are not happening.

You just can’t see it happening because you’re not aware of the evidence. Or you dismiss them thanks to science. Science of course calls such experiences confirmation bias. Categorizing these events as “confirmation bias” keeps you feeling vulnerable.

Become aware of the evidence, however, and you discover evidence everywhere. Doubt turns to belief, belief to knowing.

Before you know it, life shifts.

The subjective point of consciousness (a human being) and the seeming object reality (the person’s life experience) merge in the person’s awareness. The two were never separate to begin with, but dominant beliefs create the experience of separation.

Over time though, what we’re describing soothes such beliefs and life experience transforms.

Before long the person recognizes he is ongoingly creating life experience in a perfect, self-perpetuating loop. Attention creates life experience and “attending” to life experience creates more life experience. Ad infinitum…

Literally.

That’s when life becomes fun, a game of sorts. The objective: perpetual joy, flow and fun.

Of course, you can’t be joyful if you’re not getting everything you want. It’s only natural then that you get that too: Everything you want. And more.

When you get to the point where life experience is an ongoing, deliberate creation born of your attention to what you’re wanting, and you see evidence of what you’re wanting coming to you day by day, or better, moment by moment, something extraordinary happens…

You realize no one and no thing has influence on your life experience.

But you.

That is invincibility. That is what you knew before you came here.

Invincibility: It’s closer than you think, because it’s a by-product of thinking.