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Why The Most Practical Super Power Is Patience

Working with my clients teaches me a lot about embracing patience. This work also reveals how reality seamlessly changes from one alternate dimension into another as determined by our focus. The change — whether in the microcosm of an individual, or the macrocosm of All That Is — from the perspective of physical reality, takes “time.”

How much time does it take?

As much as necessary. For sure, it’s not instantaneous. At least not the physical reality version of those changes. In nonphysical, of course, all change happens instantaneously. That change, however, takes a while to emerge as a physical reality. Again, it doesn’t matter if it’s change in an individual, or something larger. What figures prominently, however, in how long the change will take, is our ability to become a match to it.

That’s where the tipping point resides.

Damn, sweet time

The trouble with that is we typically have a lot of momentum resisting change we want to see. And it’s hard for us to not amplify that resistance. That amplification is most represented by our willingness to push against “what is”, the very thing giving rise to “what’s becoming”. If, instead of pushing against “what is”, we leaned towards what’s becoming, what’s becoming would come much faster.

It still takes a little while though because resistance is an inherent part of physical reality. Inherent resistance is good. That’s because it gives us time to refine what we want. If things happened in physical the same way they do in nonphysical (instantaneously), oh boy, this reality would be really hard to stay in.

I’m coming to accept more and more reality’s inherent resistance, as well as the resistance I add which causes what I want to emerge s-l-o-w-l-y. I swear, some of what I want is taking its sweet damn time…and I recognize the playfulness in which I share that.

Good thing life, me, you and everything else is eternal. Knowing that’s the case, I can be patient.

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The Sacred Way of Patience: Finding Joy in the Now

It might feel like an anachronistic way to live, but it’s vital for a peaceful, joyful, sovereign life. The more we embrace this way, the better life gets. I find this way essential, not only to my well being, but also essential to embracing everything that comes my way. Living this way isn’t easy, at first (is anything easy at first?). But with practice, it gets easier.

I’m referring to the way of patience.

Having spilled that bean, I’m certain you now know, dear reader, why I wrote that it may feel anachronistic. Patience isn’t something humanity embraces these days. By “patience” I’m not talking about that frustrated, willingness to endure. By patience, I mean, accepting…embracing…the delay showing up between what is and what we want.

Accepting, embracing is the way of patience, I believe. Coming into this present moment, seeing everything as it is – even in the absence of that thing we think needs to be there for us to be happy – and being satisfied, is the practice. That practice leads to an even more profound – and elusive – practice: presence.

In presence we need nothing. Including that thing we think we need to be present for us to be happy. In presence we find no desire at all. Just pure awareness. Pure knowing. In presence we are our full, sovereign selves.

Presence is something I show my Positively Focused clients how to allow. This presence also makes up a huge part of my personal practice. It melts away impatience and striving. It frees me from needing. It reacquaints me with clarity. Clarity that everything — every thing — is as it is. And it’s all good.

The famous singer songwriter Sting, once wrote: “Forever conditioned to believe that we can’t live/We can’t live here and be happy with less.” He’s describing the state of the absence of patience, the absence of presence. Sting’s beautiful words could be simplified to this: “For every condition we believe we want, we can live happily without it.”

Not as lyrical, I know. But both sing accurately.

I’m finding deep satisfaction just being. Letting things be, and letting things I want, to unfold without me needing to pursue them. That, my friends, takes patience. Especially in this day and time. It may be anachronistic, but the peace it brings is worth it.