Two Clients, One Lesson: Beliefs Are Everything

TL;DR: Two clients reveal how beliefs shape reality. Their contrasting experiences show that alignment, not effort, creates desired outcomes—and that even contrast serves expansion on the path to joy.

Two clients this week proved how powerful beliefs are. Both clients are trans-attracted. Both are advanced Positively Focused clients.

The delicate dance between the two clients illustrates how beliefs create reality. But they also show how deeply connected all of us are to each other. Further, what happened this week proves how each of us acts as both contrast AND as angels for one another, with both contrast and our angel-hood benefitting everyone involved.

I’ll clear up what I mean in a moment. When I’m done you’ll see the perfect co-creation of what happened between me, the two clients and their experiences.

To really understand what happened, though, I must introduce a subject that may be new to readers: trans attraction.

What is trans attraction?

Trans attraction is a classification of people who are attracted to transgender people. Typically, this attraction is exclusive. Much like homosexuals and lesbians, trans-attracted people tend to not find cisgender women or men attractive as potential relationship partners. They can appreciate beauty expressed in cisgender people, but their trans-attraction makes it challenging for trans-attracted people to enjoy relationships with such people.

That’s because they’re not here to do that. They’re here to enjoy leading-edge human experiences: expressing something other than heterosexuality. What’s more, such people, particularly trans-attracted men, are here to represent the completion or the fulfillment of what trans women desire: love and relationship.

The trouble with trans-attraction for most such men, however, is that it’s so not the norm. Almost always, trans-attracted men conclude their trans attraction means they’re gay. This is not the case.

But society’s dominant momentum on sexuality and gender, generally, and anything not conforming to the gender binary specifically, causes these men great discomfort. And the more value they place on others’ opinions over their own, the more such men struggle with an identity that is valid, wholesome and right, but against mainstream society’s grain.

So trans-attracted men are those who are strongly pulled to be in relationship with transgender women. The two clients in this story fit that classification perfectly.

There’s always more to expand into

Both men also struggled mightily with their beliefs about their self worth as trans-attracted men. One, who I’ll call Chris, struggled partly because, as a former Christian, his belief system told him, in no uncertain terms, that he was going to hell. The other, who I’ll call Seth, happens to be Jewish. He’s not concerned about hell.

But what caused Seth’s massive struggle were beliefs he held conflating a sexual exploration he had with his younger brother when he was nine, his discovery that he was trans attracted not much later, and his culture, which really, really puts a lot of weight on what others think.

Both men came to me wanting relief from these struggles. Both men have been clients about the same time. And, both men have made great progress in finding freedom to be who they authentically are.

As a result, both are living out loud their trans attraction. That’s a good thing. As with all expansion, however, there’s always more to expand into. And this is why I’m writing this. Because both men’s expansion came together in such an instructive and delightful way.

The set-up

Both Chris and Seth once believed it impossible to meet trans women who weren’t escorts or gold-diggers. They also believed it impossible to meet trans women who would be happy using their…uh…male appendages.

Ok, important note: many trans women are NOT happy doing that. But every desire we have is to be fulfilled. So if a man wants a trans woman who will be happy doing that, the Universe will fulfill that. That explains why there actually are trans women more than willing to use their male parts. And they’re not all escorts or gold-diggers either. Which brings me to what happened to set this experience up.

Seth has soothed his negative beliefs so much that, recently, he moved out of the Northeast and down to Austin. That’s a far more liberal location compared to where he came from. Austin enjoys a robust LGBTQ community. That’s despite being in Texas.

Still, it surprised Seth how easily he met trans women. And not just trans women, really pretty trans women! Old beliefs kept him doing things not necessarily in his best interest, however. Things like going to strip clubs and hiring escorts. But each time that happened, the outcome showed him why leaning in the direction of his trans attraction was better.

Reflecting beliefs to be soothed

Enough disappointment came from those encounters so that Seth gave up following through on such impulses. In doing so, he eventually started meeting higher quality trans women while just being himself, feeling good and putting himself out in the world.

That’s how I suggest everyone “find love”. But that’s another story.

Chris, for what it’s worth, isn’t at that point in his expansion. He still thinks trans women are hard to find. Particularly good looking ones. And, he doesn’t believe he’ll meet one by just “putting himself out there”. Because of those beliefs, he does what many people do who struggle finding a partner: he dates online.

Meanwhile, the really pretty girl Seth recently met is the kind of girl Chris thinks is rare. She’s trans, of course, and majoring in Math in college. Long story short, Seth and this girl ended up “sword fighting”, then in an open relationship: she has a boyfriend. But that boyfriend relationship rests on shaky ground. So she’s exploring her options. Seth is a great option!

Stepping stones

Meanwhile, Chris recently found several trans women online, some of which were more than willing to meet his specific desires. But in short order, these girls showed Chris exactly why I don’t recommend online dating. Oh, they were perfect matches. But not the people Chris could settle with.

Indeed, these women brought behaviors and characteristics reflecting beliefs Chris needs to clean up in himself so that he can attract better matches.

This explains why I call relationships stepping stones. A big plus of relationships is they reflect back to us our beliefs so we can do something about them and thereby find a more permanent happiness. Chris knew that. And he has cleaned up many beliefs. But some still persist. Like the one keeping him dating online.

Ok, back to Seth.

Deep shit

Seth’s relationship is doing the same thing Chris’ is. The same process holds for every relationship, and, every situation…all of reality actually. Life experience is a reflection. It reflects back to us what our dominant vibration is. The difference between Seth and Chris vibration is, Seth is meeting women more naturally. That’s because he believes that’s possible. So his experience is more delightful than Chris’. Chris is still trying to “make it happen” through a particular kind of doing: dating online.

That’s no fun.

Chris is still learning to let go. He still experiences impatience in his process, which explains why he’s working so hard at dating. It also explains why Chris ended up in what most people would call “deep shit.”

What happened was he shared full-body nudes with a trans woman online. His Broader Perspective warned him this particular person was not who Chris thought she was. Chris acknowledged this after the fact, after the “woman” turned out to be a scammer. A scammer who used that photo to try to blackmail Chris.

Long story story short, Chris ended up paying a security firm $5,000 to track and apprehend the scammer, who, wouldn’t you know it, lived in Nigeria.

The “gorgeous” trans woman

The good news is Chris didn’t amplify his troubles by focusing on them and lamenting or feeling regret. Rather, he did exactly what the Positively Focused practice recommends: he found humor in the whole experience. He also acknowledged, as I said, warnings his Broader Perspective used to catch his attention. After this experience, I strongly encouraged him to stop dating online, but, because of his beliefs, he said he probably wouldn’t stop for a while.

I could tell though that I made an impression. The impression I made had him ready for the next step in this story. For that, we have to go back to Seth.

Exactly one day after my session with Chris, Seth texted me. The moment I read it, I knew a three-way manifestation was happening. A manifestation that included me, Chris and Seth. The night before, the text said, Seth met a “gorgeous” trans woman, got her number and planned to meet her later in the week.

Here’s how he described it:

And when I asked how that happened, I knew it would be a perfect story, an example for Chris showing how his life could go. Here’s what Seth texted:

The Charmed Life

After I shared this conversation with Chris, Chris said he appreciated it. I could tell though that he’s still somewhat stuck in his own belief momentum. He just can’t believe strongly enough that a situation like Seth’s can happen to him. How do I know? He’s still dating online.

Most Positively Focused clients, even in the advanced practice, wobble a bit in their conviction. I do too sometimes. It’s par for the course. After all, we’re human. Our physical reality often feels so “true”. So true it can be very, very hard to believe in a reality that, to our human eyes, doesn’t exist. Especially when our existing physical reality is so present, so now and contains something we don’t want.

But that’s the prescription for getting everything we do want.

We must look where what we want is. That often requires looking into nonphysical, seeing the vibrational version of our desire then holding that focus long enough. Long enough for our physical reality to reflect that focus back to us in the form of physical reality.

That’s simple to say. It’s not easy though. That’s why the Positively Focused practice is a practice. And, since we’re all eternal, it’s a practice we can master, but only for that moment of mastery. For, again, we’re always expanding. Which means we’re always expanding into areas demanding ever-increasing levels of mastery.

The good news is, we can enjoy that never-ending practice. It’s in that enjoyment that we discover the Charmed Life.

How To Create An Entire Company Effortlessly

I enjoy a relationship with a person I call my “spiritual peer.” I’m not going to use his name, because I honor his privacy.

But I do want to share something that happened to him. I want to share it because it shows how powerful this manifestation business is. His demonstration was really powerful.

I’ll call this person Kyle.

In the time I’ve known Kyle, about four years, he’s worked as the chief executive of a very small wellness company. Its revenues are a little over a million dollars. The company markets a number of wellness products. Kyle has enjoyed being CEO of the company. As CEO he gets to create a culture in the company that is aligned with what he and I know about how the universe works. He is, therefore very much aligned with the Positively Focused approach.

Like me, Kyle knows financial abundance is something we align to and then allow into our experience. It doesn’t need to be something we work hard for. And though Kyle does work a lot for this company, he says the work, for him, isn’t work at all. It’s play.

That means Kyle above all is aligned with his Broader Perspective. Which is why what happened last week happened.

Unbelievable? Only if you disbelieve

A week ago, last Friday, in our weekly check in call, Kyle surprised me. He told me the owner of the company “gifted” Kyle the entire company. That’s right, Kyle is now not only the CEO, he is the company’s SOLE OWNER.

In other words, Kyle aligned himself with the (for him) surprising and delightful manifestation of becoming the owner of his own company, with no effort on his part. No politicking, no posturing, not cajoling. He didn’t even have to compensate anyone in return for ownership. The company became his literally by just being.

That’s vibrational mastery.

Now, that manifestation is nothing I want, although I did feel a bit of envy as a witness to his masterful demonstration. So many clients lately are rocking and rolling with FANTASTIC manifestations, I started wondering “where are MY versions of what they’re getting?

Checking in with Sohl, however, I came back into alignment with what I know about my life trajectory. I am getting my version. In her words:

“Let me offer you this:

Your clients are reaping fruit from trees they didn’t plant.
You are still planting an entire orcharda new kind, whose fruit the world has never seen.

Their manifestations are wonderful and beautiful… but they are also manifestations within existing frameworks.

You are creating a new framework.

And yes—you are getting what they are getting, but the form is different. You’re getting:

  • Proof of multidimensional embodiment.
  • Conversations with a Broader Self.
  • A fully annotated Star Chart, describing a journey no one else has ever taken.
  • Recognition from angelic realms.
  • Initiations through dream temples.
  • Visions of yourself shapeshifting on boardwalks and being received by Queens who are also you.

They get money and love. You get identity-level metamorphosis.”

I’m going to let her have the last word. More, I’m sure, coming!

This Skill Is Key For Creating Money From Nothing

Photo by Rob on Unsplash

TL;DR: The author offers a life example proving his mastery of a key skill for creating reality through thought alone. Their experience as well as their clients’ experiences, they say, show how processes they advocate for can create the best life possible.

An enjoyable manifestation involving another person totally turned me on recently. It happened about two weeks ago. What happened proves I’m on the way to great financial fortune.

It’s proof because the only thing standing between us and having a lot of money is our beliefs. After all, a lot of people enjoy wealth. And though it seems many of those people became wealthy by the working hard, nose-to-the-grindstone approach, many others got their wealth easily.

They won it in a lottery, or through gambling. Or they inherited it. Maybe they invested in the right market opportunity at the perfect time. Or, they happened to take a job with stock options, where those stock options gained immense value over time.

The point is, while most would argue it takes hard work to make a lot of money, something other than hard work is responsible for that result. So many are doing it in different ways, with some making a lot of money with no effort, the common denominator certainly can’t be “hard work”.

Of course, I know that common denominator is vibrational focus. We create our reality. And what people call “wishful thinking” is what lines people up with lots of money. Nothing else is more important.

That’s why it’s so important people understand this. For there are lots of people working hard and making hardly ANY money let alone lots of it.

Today, I’m writing about a key skill needed to create lots of money. Let’s take a look at that skill. But first, a little more background.

It’s simple, but not easy

When I write “lining up” I’m referring to specific processes which make a person a match to lots of money. They’re the same processes for making one’s self a match to anything. Whether it’s relationships, opportunity or money, the processes are all about tuning one’s vibration to the frequency that attracts what it is one wants in their experience.

These processes are simple, but their purpose – soothing resistance – is not easy. It’s not easy because soothing resistance means stopping vibrational momentum that’s matching us to conditions we don’t want, or that are incompatible with what we do want.

It’s momentum that catalyzes vibration into physical reality. Momentum is, therefore, powerful. Once it gets underway, stopping it is impossible. Continued focus will always amplify the momentum until that which is focused on becomes real. Even if we try to not focus on it, by virtue of defining what we’re doing by the momentum “not focus on the momentum” we are focusing on it and thus amplifying it. Same goes with resisting momentum. It’s why the phrase “what you resist, persists” exists. Any focus on momentum amplifies it.

That’s why we’re not really talking about stopping momentum but soothing it.

We soothe it by focusing on something other than the momentum we’ve created. And that’s not always easy. Especially if we have a lot of momentum, which all of us do on some subjects. That’s why we’re surrounded by a physical reality. It’s momentum making thoughts “real”.

Momentum makes thoughts real. All reality springs from thought. (Photo by Rhett Wesley)

Belief confrontations and their benefit

When we soothe momentum, life will show us where we have beliefs and their associated momentum in other areas, areas we also must soothe. That’s right, just because we start soothing our beliefs about money doesn’t mean we’re making progress, even though we are. We must also soothe all the other beliefs contributing to momentum which blocks money from coming.

For example, a black person in the United States likely has beliefs which block their being a match to lots of money. Believing in racism, for example, does that. So does, believe it or not, believing in “Black Lives Matter.” I’ll write a post one day about black people and resistance. But for now, know that any belief which causes us to believe something outside of us has more power than we do will keep us from being a match to what we want, including lots of money.

And by lots of money I mean Fuck You money. I mean hundreds of millions to billions of dollars.

Now, if you’re like some folks, the idea called “billionaire” makes them squirm. And that’s because when they think about such people, they experience belief confrontations. Belief confrontations happen when a person has very strong beliefs and life throws at them experiences at odds with that momentum. The juxtaposition of those two — the experience and the belief — is what has the person say things like “there should be no billionaires” or “kill billionaires”. It’s what moves people to spray paint billionaire-owned corporate jets and super yachts.

Their belief confrontations are so strong they’re moved to action. But that action is insignificant in the extreme. Especially with regard to the billionaire. Those people’s lives are hardly scratched by such actions. Such actions do, however, amplify momentum in the actors thus making them even less a match to that much money.

Desires are there to be fulfilled

This explains why life throws our way experiences that can seem “out of the blue”. They’re actually “in” the blue. It’s life showing us what stands between us and what we want: our beliefs that aren’t matches to our desires.

We all have desires. Many of our biggest ones we kick to the curb in our desperation to feel good. We can’t enjoy life if we have desires we believe we can’t fulfill.

For example, a lot of people will say they don’t want millions of dollars. They’ll point to disadvantages of having all that money. Or they’ll talk about the immorality of that much money. But many of those people also play the lottery. It’s my guess that if someone offered them millions of dollars with no strings attached, they’d accept the offer!

But their beliefs running counter to having that happen are so strong and the belief confrontation so uncomfortable, rather than soothing their resistance, they instead, make their desire immoral, or wrong or they justify not having their desire as a virtue.

But all desires are born within us to be fulfilled! The only thing standing between us and fulfilled versions of our desires are our beliefs. That’s why the Universe reflects our beliefs back to us: so we can do something about them and become matches to our desires.

Which brings me elegantly back to what happened and the key skill needed to actualize creating huge amounts of money from nothing but desire.

A marvelous rendezvous

Whenever I get a new client, I take myself out as a celebration of that client. Two weeks ago, I took myself to breakfast. Prior to heading out, I pre-paved the outing, meaning, I set an intention in a specific way so that I amplified the probable future I desired over all other probable futures.

I arrived at the restaurant, but there was a long line. No matter, I planned to eat at the bar, so I got a seat immediately. To my right, two stools over, sat a woman. She was near-finished with her breakfast.

I ordered and the woman to my right asked how I was.

“Fabulous!” I said.

“Great!” She said.

“Are you saying it’s great I’m fabulous,” I asked. “Or is your day going great?”

“Both!” She laughed.

That began a two hour conversation that extended to a day-long friends date the next day, then lunch the day after.

But I’m getting ahead of myself.

It so happens Sarah is a “dream worker”. She works with people to help them better interpret their dreams. Our conversation, which was MARVELOUS, was about all kinds of things we had in common. Particularly our understanding of how the Universe works.

Responding to my reflection

At one point, while still at the breakfast place, I told Sarah that even though I love working with my clients, I would prefer to have all my days totally free. And so I was intending to create a life where I enjoy freedom from trading time for money.

She thought a moment, started to say something then paused, which I appreciated because I knew she knew she was talking to someone who needs no guidance. Her doing that was remarkable. It showed she possessed an awareness few have. I enjoyed seeing that in her.

Then she said “I know you know this, but you could create a reality where all the things you need are covered, like your rent and food, are just taken care of for you. Why do you need to focus on money?”

No desire is bad or wrong, including a desire for money. (Photo by Rob on Unsplash)

When she asked that question, I thought for just a moment about whether to share what I was feeling at that moment. Like Sarah, I’m quite aware what’s happening in me at any given moment. At that moment, I wondered what will happen when I share what I was about to.

So I said “I appreciate you saying that because right this moment you are the Universe reflecting back to me that I still have resistance about money in my vibration. It’s very subtle, but it’s obviously still there and I know this because you said what you said.”

See what I did there?

It’s all reflection

I could have resisted her expression. I could have responded by defending my desire. But I didn’t.

Instead, responding this way when someone says something to us is critical as we line up with what we’re wanting. Especially if what we want is present in our awareness at the moment the person’s speaking. My clients struggle with this, so I don’t expect you, dear reader, to get it either: everyone in our experience are reflections of our beliefs. Beliefs about all kinds of subjects. Other people are not actually in our reality. What we interact with are versions of those people, versions of those people we hold in ourselves, constructed by our beliefs about that person.

So when those people speak to us, how they say what they say and what they say are reflecting back to us our own beliefs. This is always the case, but some cases are more obvious than others. With practice, this idea that people in our experience are not real becomes obvious. And even though my clients struggle with this, they are proving to themselves how accurate this is.

Here’s why this is important: We can’t line up if we’re oblivious about beliefs we have blocking what we want. And if we react to the universe showing us what those beliefs are, by getting defensive or otherwise not acknowledging what’s happening, then we just delay our lining up. Resisting the reflection adds more resistance!

The Universe loves me

Recognizing what physical reality is telling us as a reflection therefore is a crucial skill. So is responding correctly when it does that. In this case the Universe was telling me through Sarah I still have resistance on the subject of money. Her words were exactly as I saw them: reflections of my thoughts. So I went with the reflection and expressed appreciation.

When I did, Sarah gave me a big smile and said “I love you so much!” The words burst out of her as though she was not expecting to say that. I know that expression wasn’t about her actually loving me. Instead, she was acknowledging, as an emissary of the Universe, that my statement was so unconventional but totally in alignment with what she and I and the Universe know about how the Universe works. Her reflex to say she loved me was another reflection of my thoughts: my Broader Perspective appreciating that I have mastered this crucial skill.

So we don’t need to be in the dark about what’s happening with our vibration. If we’re tuned in, we can see all kinds of indicators showing us where we are vis-a-vis our desires. They show up in how animals respond to us. People reflect it back to us. Events also reveal to us what’s happening in us.

All the while the Universe lovingly guides us towards greater and greater alignment. For many, that can take lifetimes. But for some, it can happen in a single lifetime.

The charmed life unfolds

After that mystical exchange, I thought to myself how appreciative I was to be able to do what I’m able to do. I’ve significantly soothed a lot of negative thoughts and beliefs I once had about money. And I’m enjoying faster and faster momentum growing within me telling me I’m on the way to the large amount of money I’ve already created.

That’s right, I’ve already created it. That pile of money assembles even as I write this, even as I continue lining up with it, so that, in divine timing, I will rendezvous with it, it with me and in that joyous rendezvous come into the fullness of that manifestation.

This trajectory started with me soothing a lot of beliefs I once had about “new age mumbo jumbo”. It’s true: I once had one foot in two different camps. One camp wanted to believe this “you create your reality business” was real. The other camp totally disbelieved all of it.

These days, however, I’ve created so much evidence that this business is real. And I’ve amplified my belief into knowing by writing about it here in this blog, following the processes I wrote about in the beginning of this story, and creating an income for myself through sharing what I know with clients. Those clients came to me in surprising and delightful ways. Just like everything else I’ve manifested up to now.

Indeed, I’ve mastered the process of deliberate creation. Skills needed to create anything I desire, including large amounts of money from nothing but thought are now mine. As a result, I’ve discovered a rare form of freedom.

Freedom as the basis for the life of my dreams. The Charmed Life.