Everyone will realize true freedom when they die. They return to nonphysical. From there they see all their worries and concerns were about nothing.
Sometimes, people get that before they die. Realization comes at different times for different people. You might have an argument with your spouse, for example. You might become awakened in prison. Or it might come through repeated experiences. Experiences repeating because you’re not getting the message.
Perry is telling more of his stories now. But we’ll still chime in from time to time. Today, we are sharing what happened when Perry recently had all three of these.
His story shows how your larger self (that’s us to Perry) organizes life so you can let go of beliefs holding you back. For Perry, letting go sometimes takes longer than we’d like.
He comes around eventually. Sometimes, as you’ll read, we go through extraordinary measures to get him there. He can be stubborn.
Hard Times Are Unnecessary. But They Serve A Purpose
Perry and his wife have been strained as of late. His wife is exasperated with Perry’s focus on everything other than creating an income. It’s been a while. To Bridget, his wife, it’s been too long.
Bridget knows, as Perry does, whatever a person puts their attention on enlarges. Even if what you’re attending to is something you don’t want. Such as your spouse not bringing in an income, that thing will get bigger. Or in this case, take longer.
Sometimes, people don’t get the message until the circumstance gets unbearably difficult. This was the case with Perry’s wife. She was beside herself in frustration. In literal agony at times. And she took it out on Perry.
But Perry, knowing what he knows ignored his wife’s protests. He has seen too much evidence what he’s doing is working. “Working” meaning leading to more and more prosperity, plenty and joy for him, but also for his wife. Even though that doesn’t include manifested income…yet.
So when her frustration boils over, Perry goes Missing in Action (MIA). He gets as far from her as he can. Until the boiling stops.
Sometimes that’s a long time.
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Several weeks ago, things came to a head. Bridget was trying to use her anger and frustration to goad Perry. She hoped that would get her what she wanted: for Perry to get a job.
Goading is a terrible way to get what you want from someone. The person digs in their heels. You get more frustrated. Nobody wins.
Perry wasn’t changing course anyway. Instead, he let her know what we had been telling him all along:
From Perry’s perspective, he is 100 percent responsible for how his wife is treating him. In fact, as we have said to him, his wife’s anger and frustration about his lack of income is a reflection in Perry’s physical reality of his own beliefs about money, success prosperity and how to get it.
Everything in Perry’s reality reflects back to him his own beliefs about reality. Including how other people treat him. Perry is long down that path of getting that. But he’s not an expert yet.
Yet, when Perry realized his wife’s frustrations reflected back his own, he shared it with his wife. That created a breakthrough for her.
The next day, Perry’s wife sent the following:
This card is part of a deck Perry’s wife bought that day. Buying the deck was an act inspired by her larger perspective. They were communicating a way out of her frustration and pain and struggle. A way that didn’t rely on Perry doing anything different.
After getting that message, things between Perry and his wife have been on the mend. The story isn’t over. But for now, some peace has returned.
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To get where he wants financially, Perry must let go of past hurts and transgressions. Hurts and transgressions he believes his wife caused him. Afterall, everything his wife “did to him” is a reflection of something going on inside Perry. It’s hard to hear when you’re on the receiving end of what you think is vile behavior from someone who says they love you.
But it’s 100 percent accurate. How someone treats you reflects something going on inside you.
An Miff Over Text Sets It Up
Some time back, a friend of Perry’s sent him an email. This friend met someone while recording a podcast about entrepreneurs in prison. This person, let’s call her Joy, is transgender. This friend thought she’d make a great guest for Perry’s YouTube show.
So Perry got this email in his inbox.
He set up time to visit Joy in prison.
The day of the visit came. Perry got ready. When he got in the car, which he and his wife share, the tank was on empty. One day late last year, when Perry left the car in a similar state, his wife raked him over the coals. He had a reasonable explanation. But she wasn’t having it. When a person rakes you over the coals, especially disproportionate to your “offense”, there is always something more going on than what you’ve done.
In Perry’s case back then, Bridget’s anger comprised all her frustration with Perry over the years. And her own personal issues which were particularly strong that day. But Perry too played a role in that. His focus on his wife’s negativity is well-practiced. So his focus momentum matches both Perry and Bridget when they’re not at their best. Relationships are always 100 percent. Each party is 100 percent responsible for what’s happening.
Perry was holding onto that past empty-tank raking over the coals experience. So when he saw the tank was near empty, two things happened.
One, he didn’t get mad, which was good. But he didn’t think about what he did next. Well, he thought about it. But not long enough to avoid doing what he did. What he did was send his wife a picture and text message:
He was not mad. But he couldn’t let go of what happened before. He still held onto his anger and outrage that his wife would get so bent out of shape over something so trivial. He didn’t realize there was more behind her frustration than an empty gas tank.
So he sent this text out of his past hurt and frustration.
Like Perry had, Bridget too had a good reason for leaving the car empty. Perpetrators have reasonable explanations. Reasonable for them. Not the “victim”: the person who now must put gas in the tank.
Perry went to fill the tank, then headed to prison. Little did he know he was already imprisoned. Imprisoned by his old ways of thinking and being. Thankfully, that was about to change.
A Big Surprise Behind Bars
Perry has never been to actual prison. The experience fascinated him. He checked in, got a visitor badge. He had to leave his phone in the car. He also had to dress a certain way. He needed to stand out from inmates, in case there was a problem.
People’s kindness on the inside surprised him. Unlike the movies, people were friendly and conversational. Security was there, but minimal.
Joy participates in a special discussion group. It was the only time Perry and Joy could meet. Perry hoped Joy would be an open book as a guest. He knew she’d have great stories. But he didn’t know if Joy would be willing to share them.
What happened next blew his mind.
Inmates filed into the chapel’s meeting room. About six, all men except Joy and Perry’s escort.
The escort also leads the discussion. She briefly mentioned Perry then asked people to introduce themselves. That’s when it happened.
Each person, to a person talked about “insights” they were getting. They talked about realizing their thoughts create their reality. Each described how calm and peaceful their lives became from participating in the group.
“What is this group?” Perry thought.
It’s called Insight Alliance. Group members take part in experiential learning. They talk about taking responsiblity for creating their reality. And how that reality shows up from the thoughts they think. Thoughts that if left unchecked, will run amok. Which create lives run amok.
Not only did this surprise him, but Perry also felt self-conscious. That’s because he realized something sitting there listening to the inmates. He wasn’t taking responsibility for thoughts creating the reality that is his wife.
Perry was chagrined (I was!). “If people in prison were realizing their reality is their creation, taking responsiblity for that and letting go of the past, what excuse do I have?” He thought. “Why am I holding on to something Bridget did months ago?”
When his turn came, Perry gave a lengthy self-introduction. Including information about the economic system he expects will replace capitalism in the future, his work with the transgender community and his blog Positively Focused. He didn’t mention the epiphany he had just had.
Then the meeting got underway.
While listening, Perry also saw that “inmates” are people. They are smart. They are thoughtful. They’re not bad. Perry’s preconceived notions evaporated.
And, Joy turned out to be just that. Perry was right: she had a ton of great stories. And, she said, she is an open book. Totally willing to share pretty much everything.
But wait! We’re not finished. More surprises were in store.
The Best Conversation About Capitalism Happened In Prison
After 70 minutes or so, the sharing petered out. That’s when one inmate said something Perry wasn’t expecting.
“I am dying to hear about this new economic system of yours,” he said.
All eyes were on him.
“Go ahead,” his escort said. “Tell us. I’m dying to know too!”
What followed was one of the most inspiring, fulfilling conversations about Perry’s idea.
He described how the system works. Then participants started telling Perry how it would work under various scenarios. Everyone was leaning in. They talked about how the transition could happen. How raw materials and supplies used to make things would be given to people making things (at no cost to anyone). How everyone on the planet could get their food, clothing, shelter, all their education, and all their healthcare at no cost to anyone…with no one footing the bill for those things. And how all that could transform life on Earth.
One guy didn’t get it. He dreams of becoming a rancher. He couldn’t understand how anyone would give him cows for free to ranch. The others tried explaining, but he couldn’t put it together in his head.
Still, Perry’s surprise was obvious. Never had a group got possibility so fast. And these were inmates, Perry thought.
By the time Perry got to his car, he felt far different about inmates. He also felt different about his wife. So he sent this:
Your reality reflects your beliefs. This happens so you can expand into greater harmony with your larger perspective. That is what life is all about.
Perry’s day in prison shows how we coordinate events so he can see what he can’t see. Many humans can’t see what’s happening inside them. And they don’t know why physical reality exists. So the go through their lives significantly handicapped.
Being Positively Focused brings back ability. You start seeing life as it’s mean to be seen. From that, you can live as intended. With joy and real freedom.
It doesn’t matter when or where you are. Joy and freedom are available. Some people get it in prison. Some get it visiting prison. Others might get it fighting with their wife. Everyone gets it when they die.
But you don’t have to wait until you die to get it. You can get it starting today.